I keep being told I should ‘give up the breastfeeding now’ by various people who shall remain nameless… the most recent of these occasions was because I was told by the pharmacist that I should only be taking glycerin pastilles for my sore throat/cold and that lemsips etc where not really a good idea when breastfeeding. Which I was ok with, the pastilles worked fine and I slowly got my voice back. Obviously the fact that I couldn’t dose myself up with over the counter flu/cold meds was an issue for some people, but for me it’s just something I accept as part of my decision to breastfeed… like a switch in my mind, I always check that whatever I am putting in to or on to my body is suitable.  It doesn’t feel like a chore, but clearly some people feel this is a chore, and a reason to give up breastfeeding. To clarify it was a discussion following said person asking what I was taking for that ‘horrible sore throat’ (I did sound like I had smoked 400 a day for the last several centuries!).

So I started thinking, what other changes have I made?

No alcohol
Obviously this started when I was pregnant, I didn’t drink when pregnant and  I haven’t drank anything alcoholic since Boo was born. This is not a big thing for me as I didn’t really drink much anyway, the odd strawberry and lime cider (this particular brand/drink I can’t even get in this country) in nice weather and that was about my lot. So in all honesty no change here.

Less Caffeine
This was a big change, and again this started when I was pregnant… I reduced the amount of caffeine I drank drastically… I was addicted to cherry coke and dr pepper, and I mean ADDICTED!  I also changed over to decaf tea/coffee but I don’t really drink that much of those either. I do still eat chocolate – who could live without that, but I try not to eat lots!

Other Changes in Diet
I actually eat better, I started to really try to eat better food when I was pregnant and I have carried this on while I am breastfeeding, this benefits everyone as my diet pre-pregnancy was pretty shocking.  This has probably been the hardest change to make, as I really like to eat my set foods and all of them are pretty pants nutritionally, so jumping outside of my comfort zone has been pretty scary at times, but worth it. Some days are better than others.

Medicines
Pre-pregnancy and breastfeeding I would think nothing to taking painkillers for headache or anything really.  Mainly ibuprofen. But I switched to paracetamol during pregnancy, and have stuck with the change.  I also really try to think before taking any painkillers, if i get a headache I have a drink of water and change what I am doing to see if I can get rid of it that way, and then take a painkiller if I still need to. This is probably what I should have been doing anyway rather than soldering on on the computer and chomping painkillers like smarties.  So another change for the better.

Also, it has become habit for me to check that what I am taking is suitable for breastfeeding, in terms of cold/flu meds etc. I don’t think of this as a chore and I don’t see it as a reason to stop breastfeeding.

 

Reading back it seems like the changes I have made are things which I made during pregnancy, and have just continued. (and all of these things are probably healthier so the changes are not just because I am breastfeeding but also for me, but like a lot of things I need an external motivating factor to kick me up the bum, so to speak.

I don’t feel like I am missing out because I can’t drink alcohol or caffeine, or chose not to.  I didn’t feel like I was missing out when I was pregnant either.  And these changes are nothing to write home about, they are changes that most pregnant women make without a second thought, so I am not sure why it becomes an issue which people feel the need to comment on when it’s because of breastfeeding?

I feel quite proud that I have finally been able to reduce my cherry coke and dr pepper intake to normal levels, i.e. the odd treat now and again when I go out for a meal, rather than 2 litres on a daily basis! (yes I really was that bad!) I just see it as another positive, among many, that Boo has brought in to my life, and if I can’t make changes for Boo then I certainly wouldn’t make them for myself or anyone else!

 

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I know that answer will vary from family to family, but I am wondering about how many children would be best for my family. HG notwithstanding as I still have a lot to think about with that whole issue. But if I could take a magic pill and know that HG wasn’t going to be an issue this time round, would we  have another child? and if we would the when?

Thinking back to my childhood I can only really remember two people in my circle of friends at school who were only children, and I am sad to say that I avoided both of them.  One was selfish, nasty and had to be the centre of attention at all times, and the other was so depressingly needy that it drained you emotionally to spend any length time with her. Now I know that they are probably complete different people now (we can hope right?) and that they were children and that I was no angel (and I am not an only child, I have a younger brother) and that the way these children/teenagers where was probably down to upbringing and not just because they were only children (as obviously being an only child has some impact on their upbrining). But I can’t help thinking about that from my childhood these are my overriding memories of only children.

My husband (one of four) can only really remember one only child from his childhood and he doesn’t have very nice memories of that person either.  On the other hand my husband doesn’t speak to any of his three siblings and they don’t get on an all.  Whereas I get on really well with my younger brother and we are really close.

Now, I am not intending on bashing only children, I am sure there are lots of lovely only children, and in all likelyhood Boo will be an only child because I am not sure I could risk HG again – (and Boo is my perfect angel – not that I am bias at all!!) I just worry because maybe it is difficult to bringing up at only child?

I have already noticed that Boo at nursery (and have had this confirmed by the staff) will play by herself… usually as far away as possible from the other children.  She doesn’t like to sit down at the table with them for meals, and will take herself off during meals to play by herself, far from the table. Now I wonder if this is because Boo hasn’t really had much interaction with other babies, and it is something she will get used to in time and before long she will be playing with other babies, not just next to them… or across the room from them? (She has only been going to nursery for a couple of weeks) I will add of course I have taken her to postnatal groups, bounce and rhyme, and other baby groups and I have a friend round the corner who has a little girl two weeks younger than Boo who we see about once a week (But again they don’t really play together) Are the too young? Am I expecting too much? The other babies at nursery are a couple of months older than Boo, and they do seem to like playing together or at least close to each other.

Are some children more suited to being only children? Would some children thrive more, do better without siblings? Is Boo one of these children? She seems to interact a lot with adults, strangers as well as people she knows, but when it comes to other babies and children, even ones she knows… she doesn’t react at all really. Will this change? My husband thinks that maybe Boo’s personality is one which would be better as an only child, though he has not fully decided one way or another yet and obviously Boo’s personality is just emerging at 10 months.

This feels like a lot to consider, and feels like this decision is even more critical than the decision to have children in the first place, as you are making a decision which will change the life of someone who can’t voice their opinion on the matter. Oh for a way of seeing in the future to see what would be best for Boo!

And… this isn’t even considering all the, can we cope with another? can we afford another? how can I look after a toddler and breastfeed… I was chained to the sofa for the first few months with Boo.

Before I had Boo I had no idea what people talked about when they mention unconditional love, the love that a parent has for their child.  But now I can understand completely.  There is a little person who you are totally responsible for and who you love more than you love yourself. It’s incredible.  But in the same way I can’t really imagine how people can feel like this about two or more children… I guess it must be that the feelings don’t get shared they get multiplied. It sure is a lot to think about and  I can’t help but be overwhelmed by the magnitude of the decision!

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As time seems to pass ridiculously fast of late I thought I would compile a list of things I would like to do when I get a spare 5 mins (hehe as if!)

1. Start my Christmas Shopping (well for anyone other than Boo… for some reason I already have all her Birthday and Christmas presents…

2. Have a nice hot bubble bath, alone. (I wonder when this will happen?)

3. Paint my nails, without smudges… or having to stop with only one hand done…. (I am not sure this will ever happen)

4. Have a proper sort out of all my clothes and get rid of what I don’t like/doesn’t fit anymore

5. Sit and drink a cup of tea/coffee… while it is actually warm…. duh duh duh….. we can all dream can’t we?

 

I am sure there are hundreds more things for this list, but right now I haven’t got the time to add them!!

 

 

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It’s been an insanely busy couple of weeks, and I cannot believe how fast the last month of my maternity leave is going, I go back to work two weeks today! Scary.  I seem to have so much to do, and no time to do it in.

I haven’t even had chance to post here much which has made me feel a bit sad.

I am spending as much time as I can with Boo and we have had a big milestone over the weekend, on Saturday she took her first step!! I was so excited!! And so proud. Since Saturday we have had lots more single steps and a lot more of Boo standing on her own without holding on to anything and even a video of her stood in the middle of the floor clapping =)

Such a happy time, and I cannot explain how happy I feel that I was there to witness Boo’s first step, I would have been devastated if I had missed her first step because she took it while at nursery.

I honestly cannot believe how fast my maternity leave has gone (do I sound like a stuck record yet?) A year a whole year, that used to last ages and ages, it used to last, well a whole year!!

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